What brides who have gotten married want you to know! I bet you’ve heard advice like, “get a good sleep the night before your wedding”. Or have you heard these? “try to stay in the moment on your wedding” or “make sure you eat”.
That’s good advice but here’s real-world advice straight from my past brides:
FIRST THING FIRST – Do What you Want!
If Covid taught us one thing, it’s to plan the wedding you want no matter what family and friends have to say. Don’t give in on doing something that is not something important to you and your fiance.
Want to elope? Elope! If you want to have only close family and friends, don’t worry about your third cousins not being invited. If you want to have a theme like Beauty and the Beast? Do it (and call me to photograph it)!
One of my brides said that every bride should have a ceremony that is phone free. That means no ipads either hehe!!! Yes Aunt Becky and Uncle George love to bring those. She said how disappointed she was that every single beautiful image she loved had photos with iphones and iPads in the air. Yes I moved often to try to crop them out of the photos but thats not possible for all of them. She really wished that she had an “unplugged wedding”.
Here’s another thing to think about when it comes to phones. One of my brides wished that she had left her cell phone at home. Or, maybe given it to someone else. I asked what she would do about last-minute wedding calls/emergencies. She said she would have given her phone to her mom or wedding planner on the day of the wedding.
Plan it and forget it
A few brides have said mentioned this issue, as well as my daughter. When planning her wedding, my daughter was disappointed with many of the decisions she had to make. She felt like she was settling every step of the way. Things weren’t exactly as she had planned it in her head. Things like the color of the bridesmaid dresses or the size of the candles that she got for centerpieces. But after the wedding, she reflected on her day and felt that the entire wedding as a whole was so much more than she even dreamed.
My advice: Decide on a vision, make the little decisions along the way, and enjoy what you create as a whole. NOTHING is Pinterest Worthy unless you have a billion dollars and 3 years to plan!
Be wary of free gifts of service
When you are on a budget, it’s awfully tempting to accept a kind offer of free or low-cost service from well-meaning family and friends like photograph the wedding or DJ’ing from their phone, or creating those “easy to create” Pinterest floral arrangements. BUT……it’s also a big risk for your once-in-a-lifetime occasion.
I could tell you the scary stories I’ve heard from brides, but I don’t want this to be a horror story. Suffice it to say that it’s better to hire someone and then you can get what you want how you want it. It’s a good idea to rank in order of importance wedding services and remember that fewer guests mean everything is less expensive.
Take a second every hour
Every one of my brides says that their wedding day flew by. This advice is something I give to each one of my brides and it was advice that someone gave to me before my wedding. It was the most precious gift of advice regarding wedding planning I ever got.
Have someone in charge (think mom, best friend, MOH, planner) to tap you on your shoulder ever hour and tell you to look around and take it all in. If you do that. On a day that is typically at least 12 hours, you’ll have 12 moments that you will remember in a day that flies by!
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