You don’t have to look around all that much to see why couples are considering having an “unplugged” wedding, While I truly don’t mind one way or the other, it’s good to know some thing before making a decision.
These are images my husband took on the move as he was going to walk my daughter down the aisle with her dad (sorry for the blur!). My daughter thought it was hysterical, but not all brides would want this!
What is an unplugged wedding? An unplugged wedding is when a couple getting married decides to not have phones or cell phones in use during the wedding.
In October, I saw a video where a well meaning step-mom stepped in front of the wedding photographer and that photographer pushed her aside. While I would never ever do that, I have had multiple moments almost ruined by well meaning guests and family members who are taking pictures.
I’m sure you have seen this happen at weddings and never really thought about how it may affect your wedding.
Below are a few things to think about when it comes to cell phones at your wedding:
Do you want images that would otherwise be gorgeous ruined, because there are multiples guests and family members also taking photos?
Do you want to be the first person to post images of your kiss or ceremony? My brides have told me countless times how they were devastated that they didn’t get to post the first images themselves. I always get sneak peaks to my couples a day or two after the wedding, so they have a few professionally shot images to share with people on social media right away.
Without the distraction of their phone and/or camera, your guests will be free to immerse themselves in the experience that you’ve spent months and money planning. They will be more likely to listen to and remember your ceremony better, engage and react to your heart-felt speeches and cheer you on for your first dance rather than experience it through a viewfinder or small screen.
Some people love posting everything that happens in their lives online and others avoid it at all costs. If you want to get technical, when a guest takes a group photo at a private wedding they are assuming that everyone in the shot is okay with it being put on social media and basically publicized. Not everyone lives online and those guests may be uncomfortable. Although the person who takes a photo owns the copyright (not the person that owns the camera or phone – always good to know), they don’t automatically have the right to share the photo.
You may consider compromise and just have the ceremony unplugged. Having images that your guests take are typically fun and even downright hilarious. You’ll also get a different perspective of the wedding.
Sometimes, letting the guests know that you are having an unplugged ceremony, but will share the gallery with them (provided your photographer allows it – as I do) , enables guests and family members to respect that rule for your wedding.
Finally, if having an unplugged wedding isn’t for you, just know that you will 100% have images that show arms with cell phones in hand. If you are o.k. with that, so will your photographer.
If you decided to have an unplugged wedding, consider the following:
You should definitely have a sign of some sort. Here are some examples of those on my Pinterest board.
You can also ask your priest/celebrant/officiant/MC to make an announcement prior to the ceremony.
Consider letting people know in advance about your wishes. It will help to alleviate the hurt feelings that may come from those that don’t want to live without using their phone.
Some couples do this via the wedding website and some have an insert in the invitation. For wording look here. I’ve also see it done tastefully on the actual invitation. Here’s a list of ways you can notify guests.
There are pluses to having an unplugged wedding or ceremony, but you and your fiance are the ONLY people that should make that decision.
Please note that you should check your photographer’s contract as some photographers have a clause that states no photos can be taken while they are taking photos.
To me, it doesn’t matter if couples have unplugged weddings or not. I am truly honored to photograph your big day and it is, after all, YOUR big day. No one should tell you want you should or shouldn’t have. I merely wanted inform you of trends and things to think about when planning a wedding.
If you are having a wedding, I’d love to chat to see if I’m the right photographer for you. Simply click the button below to book me or schedule a consultation.